The Answer to Every Struggle You’re Facing as a Single Woman (Hint: It’s Not What You Think)
Let’s play a little game. Imagine you’re on a TV game show—let’s call it Single Lady Jeopardy. You’re given clues about different struggles you face as a single woman, and your job is to figure out the answer. Here we go:
Clue #1: "For a while, I struggled going to church. I felt like I didn’t belong—everyone else seemed to be married, and I was sitting alone in the back pew. But then I developed one key trait, and everything changed."
Clue #2: "Online dating felt pointless. Frustrating. Like a total waste of time. But then I realized I was missing something, so I worked on it—and suddenly, my experience completely shifted."
Clue #3: "At family gatherings, when people asked how I was doing, I’d slap on a fake smile and say ‘fine.’ But inside, I wasn’t fine. I was sad. Until I discovered the missing piece that turned it all around."
So what’s the answer?
What is self-confidence?!
Yep, self-confidence is the game-changer. It’s the key to no longer feeling out of place, to dating without frustration, and to genuinely loving your life—even when it doesn’t look how you thought it would.
What Self-Confidence REALLY Is (And What It’s Not)
If I asked you to define self-confidence, you might say it’s being fearless, excelling at something, or just "faking it till you make it." Maybe you think it’s something men have but not something you need.
What if I told you that self-confidence isn’t about any of that?
Self-confidence, the way I teach it, is made up of three key things:
Your ability to trust yourself (keeping promises to yourself and following through on what’s best for you)
Your ability to feel any feeling (without running from it, numbing it, or letting it control you)
Your overall opinion of yourself (how you talk to yourself when no one else is listening)
When you build self-confidence, you don’t just “toughen up” and pretend you’re fine. You actually start experiencing life in a completely new way—where belonging, love, and joy aren’t dependent on your circumstances.
Why Self-Confidence Changes EVERYTHING
1. Trusting Yourself Means Showing Up (Even When You Don’t Feel Like It)
Most of us were never taught how to trust ourselves. We were taught to be trustworthy—to keep our promises to other people—but not how to do the same for ourselves.
So what happens? You say you’ll check your dating app messages, but you don’t. You promise yourself you’ll go to church, but Sunday morning rolls around, and suddenly, you’re not up for it.
When you build self-confidence, you don’t let your emotions run the show. You trust yourself to do what’s best for you, even when you don’t feel like it in the moment. And that changes everything.
2. Feeling Your Feelings Means You Stop Running From Them
We live in a world that teaches us how to avoid feelings, not process them. We eat them, binge-watch them away, or scroll past them on our phones.
But what if you weren’t afraid to feel any feeling? What if grief, loneliness, or frustration didn’t scare you? What if you knew you could handle anything that came up?
That’s what self-confidence gives you. Instead of avoiding or numbing out, you learn how to move through emotions in a way that leaves you stronger, not stuck.
3. Shifting Your Opinion of Yourself Changes How You Experience Life
The way you talk to yourself matters. If your thoughts sound like:
I’m not good enough.
I’m broken.
No one is interested in me.
...then guess what? Your brain will look for evidence to prove those thoughts true.
But when you build self-confidence, you rewrite the script. You stop waiting for external validation and start believing in your own worth. And when that happens? You stop feeling like an outsider. You stop seeing dating as a battlefield. You stop saying you’re "fine" when you’re anything but.
The Bold Truth: Self-Confidence Is the Answer to Every Struggle You Face
I know that might sound like an exaggeration. But trust me—I’ve been where you are. I’ve felt out of place, frustrated, and discouraged. And the one thing that pulled me out of that? Learning how to build real, unshakable self-confidence.
So, if you’re tired of feeling stuck, here’s the best news: You can build self-confidence.
And when you do, your whole life changes.
What would your life look like if you felt fully confident? If you trusted yourself, embraced your emotions, and genuinely loved who you are?
That’s what’s waiting for you on the other side of self-confidence. And I’d love to help you get there.